I must say, I am so proud of you for your desire to live in each moment. Every day, the world seems to get farther away from living fulfilling lives, but you are choosing to practice a life of abundance and real happiness. For that, I applaud you.
As a fast moving world, we’ve learned that efficiency, effectiveness, and perfectionism are important priorities. Every new piece of technology is faster than the one before, with added features and applications that do it better. Social media has done a great job throwing on a pair of rose colored glasses, and making things look incredibly beautiful.
These things are in fact, great. They allow for new connections, faster communication, and impactful changes to this space. We are so much better off with evolution than stagnation.
With that said, there is always truth and beauty in balance. When we get caught up in moving as fast as we can and wanting to look like we have it all together all the time, we lose the present moment.
Our mind focuses on past and future events; we think about our mistakes or memories that we wish we could redo, and hope to fix in the future. We want to look better than we did the day before. This means we’re really good at spinning a mile a minute and worrying about every detail.
We forget right now. We forget that we are reading a blog article or looking outside our window. We let our mind wander and daydream about the past and future, not realizing that the present moment is being squandered.
When was the last time you activated all your senses at the same time?
Have you spent any time looking at the trees, listening to the wind brush through them, smelling the fresh air, feeling the grass between your fingers, or tasting the apple you picked with intention in the last month?
We move so fast and ignore slowing down so much so that we’ve given it a name when we do; “self care.”
It’s that time we finally get to drop our shoulders and live within our authenticity. It’s so rare that we have to schedule it into our time.
When we practice self care like this, we don’t incorporate the present moment in our daily lives. We’ve decided that there is a time and a place in the future for the present. That our “now” is spent doing everything except taking care of ourselves and we will eventually get to that(if we do).
Living in the moment is the best form of self care you can add to your life. Living in the moment shuts your mind off long enough for you to just “be” again. There are no rules, no anxiety, no worries about anything except the moment you are living in. It helps you accept calm and tranquility.
Now, how do we do this? How do we live in the moment more often?
We take a deep breath. We stop for one second just to stop.
We drop our tensed shoulders, loosen our clenched jaw, sit up so that our back doesn’t hurt, and accept silence.
We give our senses 100% of our attention.
We stop thinking about everything we have to get done for a moment.
We soothe ourselves with loving energy; we sit in contentment.
We remind ourselves that we are exactly where we’re supposed to be and that there’s no perfect way to live.
We soften our edges the world has tried to sharpen.
Just sit for as long as you can and be. Sometimes our mind wanders and that’s okay. Just bring it back to what you can see, touch, smell, etc.
Slow down until you need to get going again.
Incorporating moments like this in your life will help you get to the next “self care” day without feeling like you waited FOREVER to give yourself proper care and attention. If you feel like you’re running on empty every time you make it to “self care” time, it’s best to practice living in the moment.
Spending time like this changes your brain waves and creates neural pathways that allow for slowness, breaks, and compassionate solitude. That’s how you’re able to make it to “self care” day much more smoothly.
The more you practice living the moment, the easier it will get.
Obviously there are times we must plan for the future and evaluate our past. But like I said in the beginning, there is beauty in balance. Our evolving world has made less time for the present and it’s your job to bring it back for your own health.
Sit in the moment. Soak up that feeling. Breathe. Get back to it.
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